Read this before the holidays hit

From: Jonathan Van Viegen

Home office at the Surf Lodge, Playa Venao

Dear Friend,

I’m gonna be real with you for a moment.

If you have a relationship that feels like it’s falling apart…

You CAN save it. It’s possible.

And I’ve seen it happen over and over again.

But the usual culprits of weekly couples therapy sessions or doom-scrolling instagram tips probably aren’t going to cut it.

Because here’s the thing:

Most couples don’t “fall out of love”.

They lose the emotional safety in the relationship.

And once that’s gone?

It’s almost impossible to bring it back without expert guidance.

(unless you’re one of those rare auto-didacts who can teach themselves anything…)

That’s why I’m hosting a workshop in January to address this exact issue.

We’re about to enter one of the most challenging seasons for couples.

(so don’t miss my #1 tip for surviving the holidays below…)

And I want you to come through it knowing you can enter the new year with hope…

and a plan…

for how you can bring back the closeness and emotional safety you’re craving.

So if you’re already wondering:

How are you gonna survive this holiday season…
Whether you can take another year of disconnection or fighting…
What it’s going to take to actually move the needle and find your way back to each other…

Then you should save your spot today.

Workshop: How To Make Your Marriage Feel Chosen & Cherished

When: Tuesday, January 6th at 8pm EST

How to Join: Click Here to Save Your Spot

In solutions and strength,

Jonathan

aka "Mr. Chosen & Cherished"

P.S. I want to give you my best advice for staying connected during the holidays, especially if things already feel a little fragile:

Take five minutes with yourself and make two promises.

First:

Let go of expectations.
Expectations about how your partner should show up.
Expectations about how you think you should feel or perform.

Unspoken expectations are the fastest fuel source for holiday conflict.

Drop them.

Second:

Show up with curiosity.
Not to judge. Not to fix.
But to understand each other.

Instead of asking, “Why would they do that?”

Ask, “What are they going through right now?”

Pause and take a second to learn about the world they’re living in, not how their behavior affects yours.

Remember, curiosity is how you ensure that connection thrives.

And it turns hard moments into speed bumps… not potholes that send you into the ditch.

If you can do just these two things, this season doesn’t have to break you.

It can actually soften you… and your relationship.

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Jonathan Van Viegen is a couples therapist and relationship coach with over 10 years of experience helping couples rebuild trust, improve communication, and strengthen connection. Known for his direct, no-nonsense style, he’s a trusted voice on relationships and a frequent guest on podcasts and media.